Life is a Balance of Holding On and Letting Go

By Ava Mucikyan

You only lose what you cling to.Buddha

Sometimes the changes one fears are the changes they need the most. Sure, growth is uncomfortable and painful, but nothing can be more painful than the feeling of being stuck. As you grow up, you realize certain weight needs to be left behind for the journey to get lighter. Most of us are master overthinkers. It is easy to get caught up in our own heads and start to overthink life. Generally, it’s because you have unhealed parts of your soul that have been triggered. The best thing you can do in these situations is to let go.

Easier said than done? Of course it is, but it helps to understand that, at that particular low vibration, you are not in the position of healthy judgement. It is best to not attach labels to the situation. Holding on to pain or hurting someone else will not fix the situation. Wishing things were different will not change anything.

When you let go, you don’t necessarily forget, you just let it be. As gracefully as you can, with much compassion, just let it be. Every time a thought arises, don’t get involved in the drama of the mind, don’t give it the satisfaction of overthinking; it will drain you without any resolution. Just like a nagging friend, listen to it, tell it that you won’t be participating in that conversation and let go.

Here are a few tips on how to let go:
Consciously DECIDE to let things go! Make a conscious decision that the painful memory doesn’t serve you any good and it’s time to let it go.

Give yourself permission to feel the sadness, anger, frustration, or whatever feeling you might have fully and completely. Denying yourself the satisfaction to feel will carry on unhealed emotion longer. So, if you are going to be sad, be really sad for a little bit. That will allow you to heal a lot faster than suppressing the emotion.

Practice daily gratitude. Make a list of everything you are grateful for and add to it daily.

Change your scenery; travel somewhere, it will help change your perspective.

Love yourself completely. Forgive yourself for the past. Be compassionate with yourself and mindful of your self-talk. Be gentle, after all you are doing your best.

Work with what you realistically have. Identify your present situation (emotional, financial, physical) and make a list of things you can work with NOW. Try not to give in to painful memories or guilt of the past.

Other techniques for letting go include emotional clearings, energy healings, affirmations and meditation.

Don’t take life too seriously, and don’t attach yourself to people or things: they don’t define you! After all, you can either grieve what you lost, or you can be happy to be given the opportunity to experience life. Remain open to change, be flexible not to break and enjoy this beautiful journey.