To be a work in progress is to be a woman open to improving herself everyday.
Recall the last time that you made a mistake. Were you hard on yourself or did you give yourself a pass and recognize that you are a work in progress?
As women, we tend to be the hardest on ourselves. We will hold ourselves to a level of perfection that is impossible to reach. When you think of yourself as a work in progress, you recognize that you do not know everything, that you make mistakes and that you are still learning each and every day of your life.
- To fail is to succeed:
How could you possibly know what will work best for your life or business if you do not fail at times? When you accept that failure is a part of success and stop giving yourself a hard time when it happens, you shift your mindset. Next time you fail, step back and look at the result and come up with a better plan instead of quitting. This could mean asking for help, education, a mentor, an accountability partner or a combination of these and more.
- Find the answers within yourself:
This is not always the easiest thing to do. Sometimes it is easier to look at fault elsewhere: the system, what you were taught, a person in your life, job or business that did it wrong. It makes a huge difference when you have the ability to stop for a moment and look at what you could have done differently. If my assistant makes a mistake in my social media postings, I recognize that expectations may not have been communicated clearly. Everything changes when you can look at your part in the mistake or failure. Sometimes it will be changing employees, friends or relationships, but first look at yourself and the decisions you have made to get you where you are today. Then recognize you can change them.
- Accept it or change it:
It may not always be that simple but think about it. If you have a situation that you are not completely happy with at this moment, does it help to worry about it or obsess over it? More than likely the answer will be no. Instead, make a choice in this moment to accept it for what it is, but potentially changing it in the future. Or make a change. Change the situation, make a different choice or start a plan today defining what steps you need to take. When you look at your life in an “accept it or change it” manner, it takes stress off you and your life.
- Take a do-over:
If you look back on a situation and wish that you would have reacted differently or handled it better, you are not alone. While it might be too late to change what happened, you can learn from it and change how you react the next time. Another example of a do-over would be when the situation allows it, to apologize. Recognize what happened and make a choice to change the circumstances. Being right is not the most important thing in the world, sometimes relationships are more important than being right.
- You are not who you were:
Stop looking backward. Do not rehash the mistakes you made or the decisions you wish you did not make. Your past is exactly that: your past. Know that today you are not who you were then, and tomorrow you may be different than who you are today. As a work in progress, you learn every day from the choices you have made. Step back and realize those choices were made for a reason and give yourself a pass. Spend time in the present and know that you can be whomever you choose to be today.
When you own that you are a work in progress, you give yourself permission to find fault and then find the ways to succeed.Galit Ventura-Rozen is the author of “The Successful Woman’s Mindset,” a business coach, multi award-winning professional speaker, corporate trainer and Business Executive Consultant. You can learn more about Galit at galitventurarozen.com.