Restructuring Your Beliefs to Create the Life You Want
By Ava Mucikyan
Belief is an illusion, yet it has so much power over us. Our belief system is an acquired knowledge and beliefs only live in your head. This is both good and bad at the same time. It is bad because all of us have dysfunctional and limiting beliefs that do not serve us and, as a result, hinder our growth. Yet it is empowering to know that by simply shifting a simple belief we can gain our power back.
Try this: Pick a limiting belief that you have, such as “I can never … (insert a word/phrase here)” and replace this with “I can … (insert the same word/phrase).” Pay attention how your body feels when you pronounce each one of them several times. If you repeat anything a few times, it registers in your subconscious mind as a belief and soon enough it becomes your reality.
Have you noticed how hard it is to argue with people about things they strongly believe in? Core beliefs get formulated through extensive programming starting from our childhood: influenced by parents, educational system, religion, society, media and so on. If enough of these channels feed into the same idea, it slowly registers in your subconscious mind as a belief. Your mind starts looking for more validation to support the belief, which over time becomes a core belief. Granted, if the belief is not questioned over time, and enough people around propagate the same belief, then you can be convinced it is the truth and nothing but the truth.
Many beliefs have been transferred to us from several generations prior, which were influenced by living conditions and limited knowledge available to our ancestors. I call it the “collective consciousness,” which is easy to identify in clichés and superstitions, such as, “Money is the root of all evil.”
When someone brings up their opinion about something and you find yourself strongly disagreeing, remember it is their belief, you do not have to agree, but you also cannot judge. It simply differs from your belief. If we consider how each one of us has been raised in different cultural systems and societal conditions, then whose beliefs are right?
Depending on where I am in different parts of the country or the world, most beliefs change dramatically. Unless I want to conform, I am left with no choice but to question. Extensive questioning of my own personal beliefs as a foreigner led me to the understanding that beliefs are simply illusions; they are not universal truths. If enough people understood this in the world, we would have more peace.
To identify your limiting beliefs, ask yourself, “Where am I stuck in my life?” or “Which beliefs do not work for me any longer?” Maybe you believe you do not deserve to be loved because … you are not pretty or you do not deserve love. Pay attention to your self-talk; is it positive or do you often put yourself down over very minor failures?
Dysfunctional beliefs can be disguised in very simple thought patterns, such as “I always get sick before a big event,” “I am shy” or “I can never get anything right the first time.” These may have been your reality for an entire lifetime, but once you bring your awareness to these beliefs and set the intention to release them and replace them with new and positive beliefs, you can change your life.
Some beliefs may take longer to break as they are wired by habits, and it may take a few rounds of falling into the old pattern to release the belief completely, but do not get discouraged, give it some time. Be especially mindful of anything that comes after “I am…” and “You are…” Make sure to switch to a positive statement each time you mention something negative after these. Set an intention to shift and do the work.
Life can be a breeze if you have the right tools. Next time you catch yourself with a dysfunctional belief, pause and intentionally replace it with a positive belief that serves your highest and best interests and watch the miracles unfold.