Defining Your Core Values for Unapologetic Living

By Ava Mucikyan

I am not just talking about having standards with men or women, things you buy or hotels you stay at, but more like having a standard blueprint for life. Spend some time crafting your blueprint of life, then walk the talk. It may sound easier said than done, but with a little work it can easily be accomplished.

How do you go about creating these standards for yourself?

Step 1: Connect with your true self and figure out what makes you happy and gives you joy; not people around you, not your child, not your family, but you. What do you like and what do you dislike? Make sure the “why” comes from your authentic self; the inner child of yours, not the societally programmed you that is worried about others’ opinions. Really spend some time getting to know yourself. The best way to start is to weed out things that you do not like. Let your intuition be your guide and your heart be your navigation system. Make a list of everything that makes you happy and brings you joy.

Step 2: Write a list of all the people that you admire from teachers, neighbors, to celebrities and influencers. Then, write every single personality feature you admire about each person. Take a minute to read each one of these qualities out loud and pay attention how it makes you feel. Write down every single quality and trait that you feel strongly connected to. These are qualities that reside within you, and you just need to connect with them.

Congratulations, you have officially established your standards of integrity. Now if you take these standards and add the choices below based on these standards, while keeping your dream in mind, it will give you the shortest and straightest formula to your dream.

Alternatively, when you deviate from your own standards, or make choices disregarding them, you violate your own integrity, which results in energy drain. Guilt, resentment, regret and remorse start to creep in and sidetrack you.

Don’t worry, each day is a new slate. The next time you are presented with a choice, ask yourself:
– Is this in line with my standards of integrity?
– Is this in line with my dream or purpose?

By simply answering these two questions, you should be able to make an educated decision. Harness your energy by living your blueprint and it will keep you on track and help fuel your dreams.